I only want to hear from someone with direct experience.

My ex husband is from Pakistan. I'm American. No, we did not marry so he could be a citizen, he had that through his brother. We had two children, who are now 6 and 4. He was violent with me during the 7 years of our marriage but never harmed the children. When we divorced and I moved out, which was the same time he tried to kill me and was jailed for it for a few days and charged, I didn't have a job or a home. I was homeless and jobless. Something that made him proud because he sincerely believed due to his culture that a woman couldn't make it without a man, even if that man was a violent one. So I proved him wrong, got a great job after graduating from college in marketing and travel, and met somebody who I am now engaged to and expecting a child with literally on Tuesday. My ex husband had the children temporarily because I didn't have a way of supporting them and was not about to endanger them by dragging them through the streets even though it hurt to be away from them. Back in June he had kidnapped them to Pakistan and refused to communicate with anyone. Of course, I went through the courts and the police (which did little good, both were too afraid to do anything out of fear of what he might do over there). I fought, harassed the heck out of his family online and by phone, and the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children got involved which got the US Embassy in Pakistan involved. While we were married, my ex husband was chatting with a woman from his country online and has since gotten married to her, something I realize now he was planning all along. If I hadn't kicked him to the curb, I don't know when else he would have done it. When I moved in with my partner, he kept threatening me that as long as I was with another man (we were divorced, remember), I'd never see my children. I told him this is the US and when you divorce, you no longer have any right over your ex spouse so he better deal with it. His own father put him and the children on a plane 8 months later and the children have now been back with me for a month. Since then, my ex husband keeps calling me and threatening me, trying to be disrespectful, and trying to cuss me out if my fiance answers at all or if he hears him in the background. I generally hang up on the slime when he starts up and let the lawyers and the court know so it's documented and I'm clear of any blame. The children want nothing to do with him and when he calls demanding to talk to them, I attempt to get them to talk and let him hear them on their own loudly and clearly saying they don't want to talk. They've hung up on him, to which his response was to use bad language against me and scream at me (again, when he starts up, I hang up and tell him where to go).

My question is, why does he keep using this behavior when we are divorced and don't have to even talk to each other? He's married to a woman from his country who had no choice in the matter (as is generally the case, I've been there 3 times, and when there is a marriage, the father usually waltzes in and announces to the girl who she is going to marry and when, without consulting her about it). He keeps acting as if he has some right over me or some control and gets very angry when I put my foot down and let him know that I don't have to do a dammed thing he says, whether he likes that or not. I found out that he had neglected the children and had started abusing the 4 year old by burning him and beating him over in Pakistan for not calling my ex husband's wife "mama". He had neglected them and refused to by them any clothing, shoes, coats (Wisconsin weather), hats, or anything they needed. Why does he keep doing this if he's moved on? I want nothing to do with him, I've moved on, I'm having a baby on Tuesday with a man who treats me like I'm the greatest living thing in the world and is 1000000000000000000% better as a man, person, and lover. Any ideas?

i've been browsing online for indian saree fabrics..the once i saw come with blouse. i just want the material to sew something different..im not indian but i jst love the designs,the colours and all..pls help.

Would it be weird , unprofessional , or ok for a pschcologist to wear a Salwar Kameez , Churidar Kameez , or Saree to work? What do you think?

http://www.utsavsarees.com/store/sarees-large.aspx?icode=SLKMA192A

( A Salwar Kameez ^)

http://www.utsavsarees.com/store/sarees-large.aspx?icode=SLKCR1959A
(A Churidar Kameez^)

http://www.utsavsarees.com/store/sarees-large.aspx?icode=SLSDV1361
(A Saree ^)

Do you think it would be ok to wear this type of clothing?
Thanks in Advance.

i wore one recently at my friend's wedding and had guys drooling over my toned stomach. when it comes to class,confidence,style and attraction,there's no dress that can match upto a saree. what say people?

Who would benefit the most if the WTO was abolished and rich countries did not have to eliminate their barriers to trade in textiles?
A. Textile workers in the United States

B. Textile workers in Pakistan

C. Consumers in the United States

The agreement with the World Trade Organization (WTO) that requires that the United States and other rich countries to remove their barriers to imports of textiles and clothing is called the Multi-Fiber Agreement. According to this agreement, by when must the remaining barriers to trade in these goods be removed?

A. 2010

B. 2005

C. 2008

D. 2003

E. 2002

The Pilgrims refused to let go of their English foreign language.
They refused to work for their host nation.
They refused to assimilate.
They refused to respect Indian sovereignty.

And now THEY have the arrogance to demand that evrybody else do what they have refused to do?

Now THEY want to speak about "lawful behavior"????
They also had no problem adding their own "ANCHOR BABIES" from Europe.

Hi i am Rahul from mumbai.I'm 18 and i'm the only son of my parents.My mom was only 16 when i was born in nagpur.My dad passed away when I was 5.We moved to Mumbai then.From then me and my mom use to live in a flat.She is 34 now.she is part time nursery class teacher.Her father was very rich so there was no financial problem.She is very beautiful,tall (5'7''),has a toned,slim body and is very fair.She use to go to gym and goes to vlcc for various skin cares.She always wears salwar suit.one day after seeing a tv show she developed an interest in wearing sarees.But the same day she got frustated with the saree pallu and the long sleeve bouse.So i suggested her to wear a half saree which is only upto the waist with no pallu and sleeveless blouses.we went to market that day only and bought half a dozen half sarees.After coming to home she changed her mind and went on with her salwar suits.One day she was wearing a normal saree.On that day i went to kitchen when she was doing some work.She told me to lift her up beacuse she needed to take something from the upper racks.I lifted her up holding her waist unintentionally.It felt awesome.She has a great body.Her waist is slim,flat,very smooth, soft and fabulous.she also has an attarctive navel.From then i develoved an interest in touching her waist,but i couldn't tell her that.Few days later we shifted to a new flat.After a week in that flat one night she got very scared.she told me to sleep with her from the next night.I denied but she kept on insisting me.Then i told that i will only sleep if she wears those half sarees in night.Surprisingly she accepted without any hesitation.She told me to select one from those sarees so I picked a black saree with a black sleeveless blouse because she is very fair and black will suit her.she went for change while i was lying on the bed.when she came i was stunned.she was looking like an angel.she is tall and was wearing the saree much below her navel with no pallu.Her full sexy belly was visible.she came ,switched of the lights and lied beside me.She generally sleeps flat with her front above and her hands above her head.I can see her full bare waist and just couldnt resist myself.I slowly moved my hands and kept it on her upper belly.she didnt say anything.slowly slowly i moved my palm to her lower waist and stopped at her navel.it was such an awesome feeling.i've never felt like this before.i told her immediately that her waist is stunning and i want to touch it.she laughed and told that there's nothing wrong in touching the waist and navel.i pleaded her to wear saree all the time when at home because i thought she has a stunning body and she should flaunt it.she agreed.I caressed her soft smooth waist for the whole night that night.From the next morning she started wearing half sarees all the time and i could touch her waist and navel whenever i wanted.she never minds.The next night while caressing her bare waist with one hand i asked her if there is anything wrong if i kiss her waist and may be her navel.i desperately wanted to kiss ner navel.she didnt replied that night.i asked her for two straight nights but she didnt reply.On the next night i asked her the same thing and she she agreed but told me that i can do that only in night and not in the day.i said yes and i couldn't wait anymore and kissed her smooth waist and her attractive navel all night long while holding her hands tightly above her head.she was moaning sometimes.It was like i was in heaven.In the morning i felt bad and told her about that but she said not to worry about it because there's nothing wrong in kissing her waist.She said that i am lucky that i can touch and kiss such a great waist and not everybody gets this opportunity. So i repeated the same thing in the night again.Now i kiss her stomach even in day and she doesnt minds.I enjoy it very much and she doesnt have any problem with it.Is it ok to touch and kiss her waist and navel?

When I see videos of Pakistan, Afghanistan, etc most of the men wear like these pajamas. Only a few actually wearing jeans and a t-shirt. Why is that?

I'm going to India this August for my friends' wedding. I'm so excited but have no idea what to wear! My friend suggests that I wear traditional Indian attire, but I don't know if I should go with a saree (it's got a skirt, midriff-bearing top and sort of a sash that goes over the shoulder) or salwar kameez (sort of a pantsuit with a fancy long tunic-type top and pants). Thanks in advance!

I did my homework, so I'm just asking for help to correct my answers before I turn it in.

The introduction to “Men in Our Time: Gandhi” calls Gandhi the greatest Asian since

Mohammad.
Kublai Khan.
Buddha.
Shah Jahan.

POINT VALUE: 5 points

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What country controlled India when Gandhi was born in 1869?

Great Britain
China
France
India was still independent

POINT VALUE: 5 points

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Why did Gandhi chose the spinning wheel as the symbol of Indian independence?

It represented modernization and the acceptance of Western culture.
It was an ancient Hindu symbol designed to unite India’s many religious groups.
The Spinning Wheel was illegal in 20th century India, therefore a symbol of resistance.
It represented self sufficiency and opposition to Western clothing.

POINT VALUE: 5 points

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Why was nonviolent non-cooperation more effective than violent rebellion?

The British army was more powerful than Indian forces.
The British could not hope to contain millions of civil resisters.
Gandhi was counting on the basic decency of the British by not using violence.
All of the above

POINT VALUE: 5 points

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What was Lord Mountbatten’s role as Viceroy of India?

To ensure that Britain continued to rule India
To oversee the dismantling of British rule in India
To convince Gandhi to end his fast
To supervise British troops in India.

POINT VALUE: 5 points

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What was the response of the English people to Gandhi’s visit to Britain?

They loved him.
They were resentful that his spinning wheels were putting British textile workers out of jobs.
They supported their government in opposing the leader of the Indian independence movement.
The government loved him, but the people did not.

POINT VALUE: 5 points

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What was the great problem facing India if independence from Britain was achieved?

India had become dependent on British textile goods and couldn’t support itself
India was threatened by its neighbor, China
Religious and ethnic differences between Hindus and Muslims
Lack of salt making capability, as represented by the Great Salt March

POINT VALUE: 5 points

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What was Gandhi’s response to the violence after the independence of India and Pakistan?

He moved to Britain, heartbroken.
He fasted.
He prevailed upon the British to reoccupy India.
He supported the militaries' efforts to impose order, even though they used violence.

POINT VALUE: 5 points

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Why did Gandhi fast after Indian independence?

To convince the Hindu’s and Muslims of India to end their fighting
Because there was so little food available
To prove that he was a holy man
To convince the British that India was capable of governing itself

POINT VALUE: 5 points

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Why did thousands of Indian people follow Gandhi when he marched 200 miles to the sea in 1930?

To show the world that the British tax on salt was unfair to the Indian people
To demonstrate against the British navy at India’s major port city
To bathe in the holy water with Gandhi
To convince the British to give up India as a colony

POINT VALUE: 5 points

I feel very narrow-minded for asking such a question, but hey, I'm looking to broaden my cultural horizons, and the first step is to ask questions :}

Thank you for your explanations!
Ohh, okay. I tried looking that up but am not having any luck. Any sort of explanation on the significance/ceremony itself would be majorly appreciated!

what should i wear, a frock suit, lehnga or saree??

Bomb explodes, killing many on the streets of Peshawar, Pakistan.

Parminder Sangha
Wednesday 28th October 09

Typical, common, never mind. These are most of the ignorant thoughts you might be thinking to yourself as you read this headline. Since 9/11, it’s been classed as a regular activity to drop a few bombs in Pakistan or even London. Everyday when we’re all sitting in our living rooms, next to the coal fire. There’s always an incidence on the BBC news or Central tonight involving innocent people being killed by bombs or our young soldiers being tormented, even killed by some road side bomb which most likely cost a few Rupees. A few Rupees turned into bombs, killing humans. Why should the world be like this? Shouldn’t there be world peace, salvation?

It’s perplex and obscure to even imagine the world is still having wars, have we not learnt from the Holocaust- massacre of the Jews. The Apartheid- segregation of the poor and black people of South Africa. It’s truly misleading my opinion on how the human race will survive in the future generations.

Today in Peshawar which is in Pakistan and near the border of Eastern Afghanistan, a car bomb containing 150kg of brutal explosives ripped through a busy hub located in Peshawar. The location of the explosion was a small market, famous for women’s clothing, Gold and Silver and much more. The sounds of agonizing women and children were heard as the bomb caused more and more destruction. Innocent women and toddlers, who haven’t even seen a small fraction of life, just vaporized and melted by the power of the bomb. 91 women and children killed, and an estimated 200 with severe injuries such as peeled skin, bruised ligaments and so on were the main effects of this barbaric attack on Peshawar.

The person or people responsible for such horrific mutilation should face a punishment which is far more evil than death. Being a part of modern day violence and terrorism isn’t enough for them, so they find it compulsory to kill 91 women and children. Pathetic and cow hearted are the words which come to mind when thinking of these cowards. This is the biggest attack on local people in Pakistan this year, the Taliban have been singled out to be the main suspects. Yet they deny all involvement in such horrific attacks on Peshawar’s main hub. We all know that is bull crap, both the Taliban and Al-Qaida are terrorists which no souls and the main purpose to provoke havoc and gain power. Pakistan’s government has recently formed an army to fight against insurgents like the Taliban and Al-Qaida……Now they deny any involvement in this harsh attack on Pakistan.

Hai all gals wearing saree below navel…
I am vasanth…a graduate in engineering. I like to share the first day tat I spent with my girl friend ,during 3rd year(starting) of my college days…before that I like to mention humour of my girl friend preethy during 1st year…..she feels shy,timid to speak with boys, but chat with girls nicely. If some of the boys try to speak with her, she just give a reply answer one or two words and go away from that place…
Preethy is the most attractive ,fair girl with slim body, moreover like a cute princess with pretty body structure… When i met her,instantly i decided that I want to search such a fair girl to be my future wife…..I liked her very much and I always use to sight her…..Most of the boys do the same(sight)….
During 2nd year ,placement coaching classes started—first time for me to speak with preethy in Group discussion…we both discussed so much ,organized drama events,etc…Normally I like to speak more with open hearted,slight innocent,confident,my smart & fair personality—These attracted preethy towards me….we both became friends,exchanged phone numbers,etc…..she like to speak with me through phone,internet chattings,etc…All of my friends comments on me and preethy-jointly…..preethy just smiles and go away…
During 3rd year symposium events organized…girls arrived with sarees…some girls exposes their hips,body parts-even navels with sarees….But preethy always wants to hide her body parts…normally she wears high hip…Its became 9’o clock night to complete our function ….We are moving to our homes…I picked her in my bike—eventhough she kept her bag inbetween us….her parents were out of home to attend relative function—we are travelling to her girl friend home…Suddenly engine belt was broken—problem with my bike,,It was a village nearby my friend home…Its started a symptom of raining..My good luck ,my friend parents went for a marriage on that morning itself,my friend also got ready to go for the function…
Me and preethy only to stay in a small house in between farmfields..She told me to sleep in the hall and she used the bedroom…again my goodluck at 12’o clock –She called me.. preethy had severe stomach pain due to her tightly weared dress in high hip(string felt extremely tight), her stomach stressed heavily,..I searched for a medicine and finally told to wear her petticoat below her navel—I shall put some drops of mustard oil-in her navel,which will reduce pain and give relaxing stomach..she told me to keep oil bottle and go away,that she will manage …
Again my good luck,at 2’oclock midnight she suddenly called me that something insect bited her in the stomach….she struggled and not tolerated the pain…I asked to show me were it bited,I will provide some treatment to reduce pain … My surprise ,,its in her navel—-she showed her cute symmetrical navel –she neverminded her shyness, due to heavy pain in navel….
I wanna on seeing her cute navel,,iam excited…I hugged her and started to kiss her navel…when my lips touched her navel ,she suddenly shrinked her stomach…Her body shivered heavily…she forget the pain of stomach and bited insect…I used to suck her navel,,she hardly shys ,timidly and bashfully…She sibilantly told vasanthssssh….
I enjoyed her elegant curve hip and rubbed her slim,compact stomach structure and her slight innie cute juicy navel to suck ,the whole night….Its heaven for me that night …while on first navel kiss & suck her hands tried to avoid me but ,then its went beyond her head and pillow…On morning she hugged me and told “I love you” and kissed my lips…I enjoyed her nicely ……She told me that she feels divine pleasure,with timid and trembled heavely,when my moustache rubs her navel..…She always wanted me to kiss, suck her navel and hug her while at night,& sleep on her…Our marriage held on last month,2010.iam working in TCS as a software engineer,,,preethy working in ACCENTURE…Now adays.while going out she wear chudithar in low hip,understaning the relaxation and cool stomach…
Send me some of your navel exposing saree pictures to guide my wife to wear saree like u and all….she didn,t know to wear saree below navel

i've been looking all over the internet for cheap indian clothing but i can't find any if you know any websites please list them. But i have this feeling that they won't fit me so im planning on making my own but i want to know if they're is anywhere where i can find the patterns to make my own indian clothing can you please help! Thank you! India Rocks!!!

In the culture, especially Pakistani that I am very familiar with as I lived in it for 5 years (not Pakistan, but the community in the US) and still am very into, they have a lot of dinner parties and birthday parties, did you know this? Did you know that for each occasion, her husband buys her new clothing and jewellry along with a nice pair of shoes to match, including the children (in my experience anyway)? Did you know we are not as oppressed as you think, even though I am white, but they are the same? Did you know that we go shopping when we want to, go for a drive when we feel like it, take the kids out, and have the right to demand payment for the housework and child care? Does any of this surprise you? Does it surprise you to know that most of our husbands do not complain as long as when they are hungry there is food available for them to either reheat or microwave and bread to eat it with? And did you know that if they lay a hand on us out of anger, rarely, we rescind?
It doesn't have to be diamonds and gold, now come on, that would be too much. Just a nice fashionable set from one of the stores is good enough. Otherwise it would just be ridiculous.
Think about that? Yeah, I did, when I was shopping for a lot of the clothing and jewellry in Pakistan, especially at the Pakistani weddings. Only in the west? Please! They brought it over FROM Pakistan.
Ok, what part of "Brought over from Pakistan" do you not understand? This is what goes on there a lot of the time. You say "try that there", what part about "I did, while shopping there" is hard to understand? And not with men, only with my one sister in law while the men were out in another area of the city doing their own shopping.
I counted 16 camels, in a herd, and that was it. Most people have cars, either Toyota or Honda. And their interiors are all leather, for many of the cars. Oh, and they come with these little pillows that can go around the top of the seats with elastic, for each passenger. Very comfortable. I suppose it amazes you to know that they have freeways, too, just like us, right?

I've recently found out that my great grandparents on my mothers' side of the family came from Bombay (now Mumbai) India, therefore I would like to learn more about the culture there. I'm having a really strong urge to visit there to see where they really came from but I don't think I'm quite ready for that. So are there any good sites where I can learn more about the Indian culture? Thanks in advance Tara J you just gave me the impression that you're illiterate!

I'm living in India at the moment, and I can't find any clothes that I like. I've searched and searched, even on the internet to find something that I can wear because I thought it might be fun to try wearing them while I'm here.

But I can't find ANYTHING that suits my taste; everything is either in a really bright colour, or covered in golden things, or has some other weirdness about it.

Can someone please help me find something that I might like? I like darker colours, or white, and perhaps something a little more subtle and toned down, and something that fits nicely.

I'm in Chennai, if that helps.
Oh, but I do have to wear their clothes........there is basically nothing else here in India they don't wear western clothes that often, and what they do sell here is absolutely hideous.

This is the only reason I'm asking!!

Headline at Dawn.com:
Militants warn doctors not to wear western clothes

Link:
http://www.dawn.com/wps/wcm/connect/dawn-content-library/dawn/news/pakistan/metropolitan/11-militants-warn-doctors-not-to-wear-western-clothes--04

Snip:
PESHAWAR: Hospitals in Peshawar have received threatening letters from local militants warning their doctors against wearing western clothing to work, DawnNews reported.

i am new to wear saree and make also, very first time i am going to wear saree and make too..so let me know the good make up tips for saree as my height is 5 feet, weight 55 kg, complexion wheatish, hair too mch stright like asian girl till waist, oval shape face, i seem like fattie also..i need help of make up to saree like hair style, accessories of bangles,bindi etc....i am going to wear very simple saree of soft silk, similar to below picture and saree colour aslo same.

http://www.salwar.com/Gallery/Images/ERJ303/ERJ303C.jpg

Hi I am a girl (15 years old) who lives in the USA....I really like indian clothes and jewelry (bangles and things like that)

Sometimes I see indian women in traditional clothes shopping in the mall with their families...I would really like to buy and wear salwar kameez but I feel like indian people would think I am strange for wearing it, because I am not indian....

Do you think so? Please answer

I am a female of 21 years old living in Chennai, India. I have been wearing men's or boy's cloths since my childhood. I also play football and cricket with men. I hardly play any type of games with my own gender-female.
My parents are trying their best to change my attitude, and behave like a female. They want me to wear gown, saree, etc. I do not obey or sideline their request and suggestions.
Few days ago, I though why am I not living like a woman. IS it that I am keenly interested to be a man, desire to be a man, and behave like a man (that is sexual identity crisis) or just like to wear man's attire (cross dressing).
Can you please help me in finding a specialist/ doctor (preferably a woman specialist), who I could approach in Chennai. I would like to consult and know what is the problemin me.
Please help me.