its my best friend's sister's wedding party. Its were the gurl's family and friends meet and dance and have fun before the marriage and since it indian sangeet party guests are expected to wear salwar kameez or saree. Since I am not that close to her, is it ok for me to wear a saree even if my other friends are wearing salwaar kameez? will i look over dressed?
please help its in 2 days

My boyfriend and me are suppose to get married very soon, In august 2007. He's abroad and me too. We are in different countries and we planned to marry in India as he is Indian. He told me when we were toguether that before marriage he'll lost weight but he havent hardly 2 kilos. He told me that when i arrive in India i could enjoy having a rented house and everything because his friends and relatives where going to arrange everything, but ill land in few days and noone arranged anything because all are busy with their own lives. so ill arrive in India , in a city that i even dont know to stay in a hotel and ive to search for a house myself(im not indian, im a foreigner) He told me dont buy wedding foreign dress because ull wear a saree and one month ago he told me ive to buy my own dress cause his mom and sister thinks ill looks good on it. he toeverytime i tell him to something in my way ive the feeling that he doesnt listen and after he is accussing me that im angry without reasons

hi,i'm Ramesh from Bangalore. i love a girl who is my cousin.i proposed her when i was 16 yrs old(she was 15).she cried and told me to do my studies and get good job.she is from a rich family and i'm from a poor family.After some time, i went to her house for a function, her cousin brother told me not to follow her.i thought it was told by her and i didn't want to disturb her any more. then we used to meet in functions and we say, hi, how are you? bye..that's it.

Now, we both finished engineering and we are in good jobs. I have always been thinking about her. After 8 years, one day she called me and asked me to call her frequently.i used her call her everyweek.this is happening for the last 6 months.we used to discuss abt all those things even a close friend doesn't speak to us. For example, she used to tell me like, learn cooking.I want to marry a guy who knows cooking. i used to tell same like, learn how to wear a saree, I will marry only good traditional girls.(to indirectly tell her my love).

I didn't want to tell my love because I didn't want to break the relationship like first time. I am still in love with her. Her mom and my mom know that we both speak frequently.Just friendly..like that..One day I went to Chennai to meet her.I called her to a famous Mall and she rejected..she asked me to come to her hostel.I went and met her..Just a common talk for 15min.

Then, one day i asked her (in phone) what do you think abt my proposal when we were in school? she said "no..I forgot that..I didn't think abt that after that..and all". I was really hurt that day..Even then i keep on calling her and we speak like once in a month..she didn't even call me on my b'day..After that I called her on her b'day and wished her.

Most of the times i only call her..she rarely calls me..Now, she stopped calling me and since we are relatives, we came to know that in her family they are planning to arrange marriage next year..looking for a groom..

I don't know what she feels abt me..what should i do now..I really love her..i feel like i can't live in the world without her..Is this the right time to tell her that I love her..besides everything, i'm not a rich guy like her..so, I'm worried about this..I will be a rich guy in few years..I'm damn sure abt this..

Please tell me what should i do..what is wrong in me..what does she think about me..Is she in love with me..

both of us were from same school and so i knew her for 2 years in school,but never talked with her.even though we studied in same class she was 2 years elder than me ,but had good sex appeal with sexy face.few guys proposed her,but she turned down all of them.

i never used to think about her after shcool ,but unfortunately one day i saw her in my college where i was studying BE and she was doing Msc s/w Engineering in the same college.i just couldnt resist to talk with her and i talked with her for first time and she was smiling and willing to talk with me too which impressed me a lot.

then on after classes gets over, i would wait for her to come in evening and would accompany her when she gives me a sexy smile.she looks awesome in saree and i never miss a chance to see her in close when she is wearing saree.we continued talking like this for two years and i also used to chat with her online and later because of one small misunderstanding we split up.

it was final year and i saw her in sky-blue transparent saree on her dep associaton day.she was very sexy and i got again sttuck on seeing her.then i went to her and talked about the misunderstandings and we again patched up.i also asked her contact no and i used to call her everyday and so does she.i used to call her by sweet names which lovers use and she was also ok with it.i used to masturbate a lot thinking only about her and our naughty conversations.i cant even count how much times i mite have done thinking her.

now i have passed out from college and im working but she completed her degree this year only (coz its 5 year cousre for her and not 4years course like me)coz of which im not able to talk with her properly , but sometimes i become sarcastic and i expect her to talk with me very often,because of which again problem came between us.

she always says that her parents are strict and they wont agree for love marriage and so she says she wont love anyone at all.im also very much sure that she wont agree to marry me nor their family 'ill.Because of this i also planned not to reveal her about anything. i think lot about only her for self excitation and i feel like i want her at any cost but later after masturbating my feeling for her vanishes .the same thing happens with me every time recursively i think about her nowadays.

so i would ust like to know whether i truly love her or is it just the lust on her pulling me towards her.

advance thanks for all...

I am very interested in Indian Culture and want to learn more

Everything from dress to religious beliefs
Family life
Marriage ceremonies
Do's and Don'ts
Daily life
Language
Customs
Rituals and practices

I would appreciate any info especially from people who were born/live there
I mean those who would practice Hinduism

We two gay friends deeply in love.He takes me as girl.But now he wants me to dress up in Indian wears saree-blouse bra with all nose ears jwellary with a mangalsutra(a wedding chain that wears Indian womans after marriage).I refused him to do it.But my refuse made him upset,now he says he will leave me.But I can't stay without him now.What should I do? Should I dress myself in woman clothes to satisfy him? I gets shy to wear brassire.Although I am having bulging chest like boobs.

Hello,

Well i am going to marry after 3 months,everyhting is prepared for the marriage,Wedding Dress, jewellery,etc,

my would be Hubby prefers Jeans & Wester Dress as compared to traditional indian dresses after marriage,, i am going to married in a very modern family,,

i want to know abt my dressing sense after marriage ,,,

well should i go for few jeans or for traditional suit salwar or sarees ,,the problem is that i don't want to upset my Hubby,,,,,so kindly pls help me,,,,,,,,,

Thanks

i have to attend marriage in Dec in north india .can u please suggest me what stuf & colour should i wear.what r the colours in fashion for winters.i want to wear a good party saree with resonable rates.any shops in b'lore for good sarees & suits?

I am an Indian and I am in love with a westerner. All my family are against it as they think I should protect Indian culture and traditions and not lose it by marrying a foreigner. But the person I love is very open minded and has no problems in me following my culture and traditions. My family does not believe this is possible and they prefer me leaving him. I do not want to let my family down and marry without their consent. At the same time, I do not want to forgo my love and do arranged marriage. Any way out ?

I am a married woman. My age is 27. Before my marriage i usedto wear saree occassionally.after the marriage my husband and in laws are insisting me to wear saree below navel.they themselves wear saree in that way. earlier i felt very uncomfortable,now i am comfortable. i have deep and round navel. whenever i wear saree in that way my husband and in laws appericate me. but we live in usa. whenever i come to india i wear saree in traditional way i.e.above the navel. my husband always insist me to expose my navel. i told him that will not look good anddecent. one day when i was at my parents home, i was wearing saree my sister in law ( my elder brother' s wife) came to my room and get a glance of navel. she requested me to show my navel initially i declined, but any way i show my navel to sister in law. she just staring at my navel and apperciate my navel.one day she was asking me to expose my navel at home. i told my mom .my mom told that it is my choice, one day i wear saree below navel below 4". what i am watching that my sister in law wasstaring my navel with crazy eye. my problem is that whenever i wear saree below navel all the female members start appreciating my navel and all want to see my navel from my mother to in laws even my younger sister. i did not understand what is the craze in my navel. I asked my mom and mil that why they are so much fascinating about my navel they all told me that they feel verry lucky when ever they see my navel. the most interesting thing i would like to share with all of you that one day my mother in law ask me to wear saree below navel below 5" and she took one photograph and show our family panditji that panditji told those woman who have deep andround navel they bring happiness to the family they have special blessings of lord sun. my mother in law told the same thing to my mom, from that both the ladies ask me to show my navel everymorning. i show them but my mom touches. i want to know that big and deep navel canm bring happiness to family, if it is true then tell me i dont have any problem to expose my navel in front of my family members. they all are very well cultured and mannered.

Hi, I am 24 yr old girl getting married next month. I live in bangalore and marriage will also be here. I want to look gorgeus and liek a star in my wedding. So Pls advice me on following things:
1) Suggest me a parlour in Bangalore good for facial and Which facial should I go for?
2)What should I do make my skin look healthy on that day
3)I am south Indian and will have to wear Silk sarees. Pls tell whcih are the type of sarees suitable for muhurtham and reception. because I dont know much about sarees. We will be buying sarees in Kanchi
4)What hairstyle shall I get done for Reception?
5)I have wheatish complexion. What hair colour should I do for my hair?
6)I have facial hair. Should I get it bleached or waxed? Which is better option?
Thanks all for the replies..
Bangalore-India

my marriage is near and i want to wear saree on tje eve which type of blouse should i try backless or with somepart of my breast wxpose or the traditional one

From where to indian dress online. Specially the saree dress. for my sister marriage next year! She love the pink and blue please post some link too!

I am a marriade man. 3 years to go our marriage. My wife is a software engineer. She had 30,000 salary per month. I am only HSC educated person. I had only 4500 salary in per month. But we both are in job our other housing work don’t be completed. We both are tied. Hence my wife has appoint one servant in our home. But he can thief with us. Hence once again we are in problems.
Oneday my wife said to me, “you can resign your job.” Because our house work are not completed, hence if I resign my job then our mothly expenses will not covered.” I can understand what she can told to me. I am resigning my job & completed all house works. It will including coocking, washing, cleaning, bills payable, etc. I can fill like just not for I am but she is my husband, because all internal work I can do, & outside work she.
One day I fill that, I just do all the time housewife roll, exemt, wearing a saree, if I can wear saree, I can look complete housewife.” I can go in our bedroom & try to wear saree. I can wear petticot, bra, blouse of my wife’s. but don’t know how to wear saree. In that night when I am completed all of intarnal work, I just consult with my wife to my fillings. I told her, “I just do all the time housewife roll, exemt, wearing a saree, if I can wear saree, I can look complete housewife. If you don’t mine can you help me to wear saree. She just smilling. And told me, “you want to be complete housewife.” And once again ligfiing.
She can readdy to help me to wear saree. I can wear petticot, bra, blouse & she can tie me a saree. She told me that’s “you can be a complete housewife. But something is missing.” She can wearing me to her jwellery, bengells, bindi, hear-rings, watch, payal & mangalsutra. And told, that’s now you are complete women, sorry housewife. After that night I can wear saree in everytime when in our house. I like to wear saree. I can wear her saree, salwar, top, lehenga, chudidar. She can share with me all of the her dress. I am now live as a housewife. I am kept my hair is long.

I am from a traditional Indian family and went abroad after marriage. In the new location, my husband asked me to wear either Skirt and blouse or shirt and trousers to align with the local culture. I was quite embarassed as I was not used to such outfits. and with my structure of 38-26-40 such outfits make it very embarassing and provoking. I tried to tell the same to my husband but he didnt listen. As it was only a few days after the marriage I had to follow what he said. I prefered Skirts and blouses instead of pants and shirts.
Very soon he took me to a party, and asked me to join in dance. When I hesitated, without asking again he went dancing and disappeared in the crowd. One of his friends came to me and started conversation and forced me to dance with him. while the time passes he came close and stared touching my waist and below. As the music went loud and lights dimmed, he took more advantage by hugging me with his hands on my bum. He kept beating and pressing my butts as per music. I was surprised and tried to move away. He held me close, squeezed my butts tight and lifted me up. He positioned me straddle his waist irrespective of my violent resistance and moved his hands under my butts. It was quite embarassing for me as my skirt went up to waist and my thighs were completely uncovered.He kept his hands under butts, groped my bare thighs and kissed me for a long time. I got away and pushed him back. He said that he wanted me to have some fun as I was getting bored. I blasted him saying that he need not bother about entertaining me. I sat at the table for a long time and after long time of thought I decided not to share this incident with my husband when he returned to me. Because no Indian husband can digest when his wife is molested by some one even if it is not her mistake. I tried to forget the incident even though it was difficult. I also avoided going out with husband to pubs and other events quoting some reasons. And I also switched to Pant and Shirts as I had bitter experience with skirts. above all I continued to try convincing my husband for wearing sarees but he still insisted that I would look odd there.

One day my husband invited that guy for dinner. I didnt talk to him at all and avoided even eye contact. But I had to take him to show wash room as per my husband instruction. He came with me till that corner and immediately hugged me, held both my breasts from behind and fondled quickly. I was bloody angry and pushed him hard to hurt him. He smiled and said it was just for fun. I came back running to living room. Since than he kept trying for me, but I always avoided. Even than he got some chances. One day while having meals at home when my husband went to rest room, he pulled my shirt up, applied the pickle on tips of my breasts and kept licking and sucking my breasts for nearly a minute. Many times I pleaded him and even threatened that I would tell my husband. But his reaction was only some more molesting.

I realized that I am getting in to deep trouble by delaying telling my husband. Whenever I thought about it, I was worried about how to justify on the delay. On a bad day, things went worst. 5 families went to an outing inside a forest in a bus and he came in a car.While we were returning, I missed in the guest house while the buses and his car left. He took the opportunity and returned alone to pick me back. Through out the journey he kept his hand on my thighs groping and squeezing the inner thighs. Some time he kept his arm around my neck and fondled my breasts. I was completely depending on him and didnt know how to escape that. On the way, he stopped at a place near water fall. He removed my clothes and carried me naked to the water fall. He felt and tasted every bit of my naked body. He kissed and licked even unusual areas of my body like my arm pits, and between thighs under water. I just could not fight with him in that unknown country.

On some holidaying I came to my country and I informed my husband that I would never go to abroad and told him to come back to India.My parents didnt understand why I took this stand. Even my husband was surprised and in fact was furious about my seemingly strange behavior as he didnt know the facts. I was very frustrated about my husband's lack of understanding in this whole process. Had I continued wearing the traditional sarees, no one could have dared even touch me. Since my birth it was only my husband who touched my body. Now this person explored more of my body than my husband even if he didnt penetrate. While I cant tell my husband on what happened I can still say it was his unfriendly behavior which kept me under continuous pressure.

that guy some how got my contacts and informed me that he wanted to marry me if I am leaving my husband. After thinking for many days, I decided to say Yes, for many reasons. Main reason is that an Indian woman can offer her body only to one person. Whereas this in the case, even though
After thinking for many days, I decided to say Yes, for many reasons. Main reason is that an Indian woman can offer her body only to one person. Whereas this in the case, even though there are two people, this guy knows more about my body and admired me more than my husband. I feel this is a genuine reason but some how I am unable convince me. Am I right doing this?

as wedding gifts, i got very cheap gifts (cheap cotton/synthetic sarees - of the kind that can only be worn at home or given to maidservants) from well-off in-laws (they have a flat in a big city, a car, and travel by plane), can/should i be offended?

also, they said it is traditional for the bride to keep part her jewelry in her in-laws' locker - though we do not live with them - anyone else heard of this "tradition"?

they asked me for 15,000 rupees for buying gifts for my sister-in-law, is this "tradition" or dowry?

we had a love marriage, not arranged. but my in-laws are such emotional blackmailers and competent brainwashers that i cannot distinguish "tradition" from manipulation any more.
we are in indian and i am not conversant with traditions so i never know whether the demands my in-laws conveniently term "traditions" are legitimate or not.
locker = term for bank safe deposit box in india

I am in my 30's & live with my Mom. My fiance is white & I am East Indian. I lived on my own for a long time & even moved out of state & moved back with Mom because dad was sick & dying. She always treated me like a kid. Yesterday she got upset with me & said she is not my mother & she doesn't want any part of my wedding. My sis who lives out of state always causes problems in the family. She hates my fiance. She lied to me about mom. She said Mom said I'm using marriage prep as an excuse on not attending my relative parties. They have parties almost every weekends & the parties end after midnight.. Mom wanted my wedding the way she wanted & my fiance & I didn't like that. My fiance, my Mom & I were planning on traveling out of state to buy my Wedding sari & bridesmaids sarees. She's supose to help me pick the right saree since she's worn saree's alot. But now she doesn't want to go. I got upset & told her I should cancel the wedding but I didn't tell anything to my fiance. I'm sad

I need to purchase around 50 sarees for a marriage gifts.
and also shirt pieces cotton.