I am a female of 21 years old living in Chennai, India. I have been wearing men's or boy's cloths since my childhood. I also play football and cricket with men. I hardly play any type of games with my own gender-female.
My parents are trying their best to change my attitude, and behave like a female. They want me to wear gown, saree, etc. I do not obey or sideline their request and suggestions.
Few days ago, I though why am I not living like a woman. IS it that I am keenly interested to be a man, desire to be a man, and behave like a man (that is sexual identity crisis) or just like to wear man's attire (cross dressing).
Can you please help me in finding a specialist/ doctor (preferably a woman specialist), who I could approach in Chennai. I would like to consult and know what is the problemin me.
Please help me.

My husband and I live in Australia together. So, my parents, brother, and sister came from the USA to our "English" wedding in Australia (my father-in-law wanted to but couldn't... he was the only one from hubby's side). This was a very small wedding (10 guests) my husband and I payed for it, and I wore an Indian dress (saree) for my husband. My parents spent ,000 on the trip. They didn't (and still don't) talk to my husband's parents, which my in-laws find very insulting. My family is that way and nothing will change them. We are having a second wedding in India for my husband's family. My parents and brother are coming, only for my husband (his request). They have no interest in this wedding. They are also stopping in Europe, and the total cost for this trip is another ,000. My father-in-law is covering ,000 of the Indian wedding cost and my husband and I are responsible for the rest. My husband also regularly pays his father- monthly- to cover debts and his parent's living cost (basically, we are paying for the whole wedding). My father-in-law just sent an email to my father that very directly and politely asks for ,000 toward the Indian wedding. He added figures (false) to make the cost of the wedding a total of ,000 and said as per universal customs my dad should pay half. My dad answered back a polite no. My dad is furious with this email and my father-in-law is enraged with the reply. Who is right anyway? Should my dad be paying anything? Is there some cultural backing for my father-in-law's anger that I don't understand? I do not feel that my dad should have to pay anything to my father-in-law but now my husband agrees with his father. How do I fix this between the two families? I already feel bad because I would have liked an American wedding with my own family rather than the Australian, and for making my family fly all over the world at their expense.

So I'm Pakistani, Well I was born there. And my parents were born there,
but we are mixed with turkish and chinese/mongolian ancestry.

I often try not telling people that I am pakistani, and you see how I tried to make myself not seem that much because I mentioned my other ancestry.

When people ask me what my ethnicity is and I say Pakistani. They say "eew" sometimes they even call me "Jihad"

But I don't really look Pakistani, Many of the time people are suprised when I say it.. They normally think I'm Middle Eastern and half Asian.

I want to be proud of being pakistani, but its hard when Media makes us look so bad. By calling us terrorist and just the typical image of a Pakistani.

Most ppl think of Osama Bin Ladin, or Taliban or Muslim Fanatics. The typical image of pakistanis are brown, smelly, terrorists. When its not like that at all. Pakistan is a very diverse place. There are fair looking people with blue eyes and blonde hair, to Punjab indian looking with darker skin, to more Chinese looking people. Most Pakistanis aren't terrorists or hate western lifestyle. In Pakistan they are wearing more westernized clothing.

So can you help me? I just feel ashamed when I say I'm Pakistani, because people think I'm a terrorist, and just how media has made us look so bad.

when I was about 13 I was run over by a car and temporarily knocked unconscious. About a year later I started believing I was Jewish, it started off with an interest in Judaism and Jewish culture, then I used to go to Synagogue and I would tell people there I was Jewish. My behaviour also changed, I became aggressive to my parents and I actually hated my father with a passion, we used to get into physical fights. Then when I was about 15 I met a guy at a bus stop and I told him my father was Turkish and he lived in Turkey (this isn't true), and that I lived with my mum and my step-dad who are English. Through going round to his house one evening I met a Pakistani family who gave me some traditional clothes from Pakistan, I went home wearing one and my dad hit me and was furious with me. After that I ran away and stayed with my Muslim friend and I ended up going to a Mosque about 100 miles away and staying there for a few nights and then moving around the country staying in Mosques and evangelising to non-practicing Muslims, everybody loved me as I was "white" but I told them I was half Turkish, and I actually used to believe I was, I didn't think I was lying. One day the mosque I was staying in got a call from the police asking if I was there, I was and the police came and got me, dragging me out barefoot and keeping me in a cell, a few of the officers asked me if Iwas the white boy who thought he was a "paki" (their words). After this I began to hate white people, I distanced myself from my family more and more and assumed a Musilm name, everyone I met I told them that I was something other than what I was. Of course my parents still had legal rights over me and they made me stay in a teenager's hostel, I received psychotherapy and the therapist told my dad I had a "borderline" personality. My dad died when I was 17 and for the next 4-5 years I fluctuated between believing I was something else to believing the truth. Confrontations with the truth about myself made me very uncomfortable and I avoided my family at all costs. When I was about 22 I met someone who told me I was mentally ill and I went to a doctor, I got diagnosed wih Bipolar Disorder. Does this all mean I had a 10 year psychotic episode, if not what was going on?

from the traditional saree? Or is it complete saree or modern dress with no in between? In Tamil tradition, who pays for the wedding? In Canada, it's of course the responsibility of the parents of the bride, but I am a single mother on a restricted income. Any ideas?

my boy frnd is ready to do anything for me he appeared infront of me first time in women get up and look sexy and gorgeous she was my frnd for 5 months then oneday she opened the truth now we r marrying i want that he should wear bride dress necklace sarees bra blouse mehndi and i come like dulah on horse in kurta pyjama our parents agreed he too will this be good

my wedding is coming in few weeks.what kind of jewelry will go with red banarasi saree?
hi..m having a traditional bengali wedding..so the red banarasi saree is full of zari work.i am a slim girl with height of 5'2 and i want to look simple yet elegant on my wedding day.the wedding is at my parents house.Please suggest me something.
and cud u ppl plz suggest me wat shud i wear for my recpetion??a heavy embroidery saree or a plain silk saree?any suggestions?

both of us were from same school and so i knew her for 2 years in school,but never talked with her.even though we studied in same class she was 2 years elder than me ,but had good sex appeal with sexy face.few guys proposed her,but she turned down all of them.

i never used to think about her after shcool ,but unfortunately one day i saw her in my college where i was studying BE and she was doing Msc s/w Engineering in the same college.i just couldnt resist to talk with her and i talked with her for first time and she was smiling and willing to talk with me too which impressed me a lot.

then on after classes gets over, i would wait for her to come in evening and would accompany her when she gives me a sexy smile.she looks awesome in saree and i never miss a chance to see her in close when she is wearing saree.we continued talking like this for two years and i also used to chat with her online and later because of one small misunderstanding we split up.

it was final year and i saw her in sky-blue transparent saree on her dep associaton day.she was very sexy and i got again sttuck on seeing her.then i went to her and talked about the misunderstandings and we again patched up.i also asked her contact no and i used to call her everyday and so does she.i used to call her by sweet names which lovers use and she was also ok with it.i used to masturbate a lot thinking only about her and our naughty conversations.i cant even count how much times i mite have done thinking her.

now i have passed out from college and im working but she completed her degree this year only (coz its 5 year cousre for her and not 4years course like me)coz of which im not able to talk with her properly , but sometimes i become sarcastic and i expect her to talk with me very often,because of which again problem came between us.

she always says that her parents are strict and they wont agree for love marriage and so she says she wont love anyone at all.im also very much sure that she wont agree to marry me nor their family 'ill.Because of this i also planned not to reveal her about anything. i think lot about only her for self excitation and i feel like i want her at any cost but later after masturbating my feeling for her vanishes .the same thing happens with me every time recursively i think about her nowadays.

so i would ust like to know whether i truly love her or is it just the lust on her pulling me towards her.

advance thanks for all...

Hi Everyone...ok, So I have MANY questions...

I am a person of Indian descent born and raised in South Africa. I am very proud of that but also very proud of being Indian.

As I was growing up my parents and mostly grandparents have kept to their traditional way of life and languages. I don't speak any Indian languages , sadly enough. I am the 5th generation of Indians in South Africa. So basically we are very South African.

Do people in India consider us (Indians born and raised elsewhere) INDIANS? We may not be Indian nationals but we certainly Indian by race and heritage. So what does most people in India think?

Did you learn about South Africa and Indians here when you were in school? And Gandhi's 21yrs here??

Has anyone of you been to SA? what did you think of the Indian community here? Could you relate at all?

Of course I don't expect us to be totally alike, we from two different countries...but is there a connection?

I am planning on spending 3 months in India next year. I don't wear sarees and speak Hindi. I look more like a Westerner (by clothing) not looks. How will the people in India treat me? My friends say that while I may look Indian I am not very Indian. I don't know what that means. So what does it take to be Indian?

Thank you for all your answers. I greatly appreciate it.

I am a married woman. My age is 27. Before my marriage i usedto wear saree occassionally.after the marriage my husband and in laws are insisting me to wear saree below navel.they themselves wear saree in that way. earlier i felt very uncomfortable,now i am comfortable. i have deep and round navel. whenever i wear saree in that way my husband and in laws appericate me. but we live in usa. whenever i come to india i wear saree in traditional way i.e.above the navel. my husband always insist me to expose my navel. i told him that will not look good anddecent. one day when i was at my parents home, i was wearing saree my sister in law ( my elder brother' s wife) came to my room and get a glance of navel. she requested me to show my navel initially i declined, but any way i show my navel to sister in law. she just staring at my navel and apperciate my navel.one day she was asking me to expose my navel at home. i told my mom .my mom told that it is my choice, one day i wear saree below navel below 4". what i am watching that my sister in law wasstaring my navel with crazy eye. my problem is that whenever i wear saree below navel all the female members start appreciating my navel and all want to see my navel from my mother to in laws even my younger sister. i did not understand what is the craze in my navel. I asked my mom and mil that why they are so much fascinating about my navel they all told me that they feel verry lucky when ever they see my navel. the most interesting thing i would like to share with all of you that one day my mother in law ask me to wear saree below navel below 5" and she took one photograph and show our family panditji that panditji told those woman who have deep andround navel they bring happiness to the family they have special blessings of lord sun. my mother in law told the same thing to my mom, from that both the ladies ask me to show my navel everymorning. i show them but my mom touches. i want to know that big and deep navel canm bring happiness to family, if it is true then tell me i dont have any problem to expose my navel in front of my family members. they all are very well cultured and mannered.

My brother has a cute face, longish hair,slight build and very pretty eyes.I am curious to know how he wd look if i dressed him up as a girl.How do I convince him to do it.And what shd i make him wear...Skirt blouse?salvar kamez?saree?jew? make up? we are studying in pune & our parents are in delhi.
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The bride's parents want to purchase an outfits for us (at our expense). We would rather dress in standard American attire. Is this OK? How can we tell them tactfully?